SINGLE
I’m at the
end of my rope with this single thing.
Weary.
I’m at the
point of crying when I hold babies, knowing that is such a longing for my
heart. A family. To be a wife, and to be a mother.
I cry after
attending friend’s weddings, because I honestly do not know if I will ever get to be that bride.
I struggle
still sometimes with what I could have changed in my last relationship to have
not been broken up with, even knowing that it was for the best. And that we are better friends.
And I’m left
with wondering if I ever at least get that man who I can grow old with. Whether or not any children are ever
involved, will my life always be a rotation of roommates, and trying to fill
this time so I’m not by myself so much?
That every holiday I will try to find somewhere to go so I’m not
alone. That continually where I live won’t
feel like home, rather this perpetual feeling of being a college student,
counting down days until I go to Iowa, where that STILL feels more like
home, because I don't have a home. Will I have to make every big decision alone for the rest of my life?
I’m left
feeling defective at times. I’m better
at that, but seriously… I have these
moments where I am convinced that there is something so terribly wrong with me.
Even though the ex-boyfriend said there wasn’t.
Even though men in my life continually say they don’t understand why I’m
still single. My friends are so
encouraging. But still, the evidence is
that I’ve not been chosen. The evidence
is that I’m alone.
To the degree
of this feeling at the end of my rope, I’ve become like Hannah coming to the
Lord and asking for a child, I ask, daily, for a husband. For a family.
For someone to share my dreams with.
I remind myself that in the story of Isaac and his pursuing of Rachel,
often we feel bad that after 7 years, he got Leah. But I take consolation in the fact that God
didn’t forget about Leah. He granted her
a family. Even though she “had weak eyes”…whatever the hell that
means.
I can’t quit
looking for that connection, for that deep soul friend whom I will love. I can’t.
I want to. With all my heart I’ve
begged to have that desire taken from me, because its absolutely painful to go
to weddings and to hold those babies, and to watch friends in serious
relationships… even though I’m so very happy for them.
And really…
well-meaning people and their platitudes… I don’t need that.
I need you to
sit with me. To let me talk. To let me cry. To let me grieve over what may not be.
And then… speak hope. I need
hope. Hug me.
Seriously… please hug me. I miss
touch in my life. Men who are brothers to me… please do tell me
the good things you see without making it weird. I need to hear things at times from a man’s
perspective.
That’s where
I am the last couple of weeks.
I am in no way desperate or willing to settle with someone I am not in love with, and cannot connect with, but I am tired. And feeling less than hopeful about my future in this area of my life, and somehow, would love to get back to believing this for my life. True story.
I am in no way desperate or willing to settle with someone I am not in love with, and cannot connect with, but I am tired. And feeling less than hopeful about my future in this area of my life, and somehow, would love to get back to believing this for my life. True story.
Today while driving home I heard the song, "Learning to Live Again" by Garth Brooks. When it was over I stopped and listened to it again. It brought tears to my eyes second time around. I feel exactly how he feels in that song, isolated and alienated, awkward in social situations.
ReplyDeleteWow..thanks so much for honestly and transparency. I value that so, so much. Prayed for you today... that you would process through this season and that isolation and feeling alienated would be just that... only a season, friend. We should chat about this~ :)
DeleteI don't know why God has got you in this desert for so long, but I know that this isn't your final destination. Keep hoping, dear friend!
ReplyDeletePlease seen the comment below, which should have been a reply to this ... lol. Still new to this comments on my blog thing.
DeleteYou carry hope incredibly well, friend. And when I lay it down because hope is just... too heavy for me to carry, you pick it up and walk with me. I love you so very much, and I honestly can't imagine my life without you, Julie. Simply thank you.
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